Bits and Pieces.

I am back!

Yep. Time has flown, and here we are! November, 2022, already.

I have been reflecting on what I want for the future, and this “new norm world” we now live in. Almost just about post pandemic.

So much has happened, in the last almost three years for us all, to put things into perspective. In so many ways.

BP or “Before Pandemic” my goals could have been “do more, do better make more $$, get this, get that..” NOW my goals seem to be so much more simplistic.

I SIMPLY want to get through each day with aplomb, satisfaction with a sense of elegance, innate peace and happiness and a sense of balance running through my veins that makes me feel like I actually contributed to this world.

I want to get up real EARLY in the morning, so I do not miss a f-ing thing. Not the sunrise, not the early walkers, not the stray cats coming for food. I want to walk in the garden with my strong coffee, smelling all the flowers, looking at the sunrise sky, wondering if it will be humid today. I want to talk to God. I want to watch the birds at the bird feeder and smile, I want to be… the MOMENT. I never had this before!!

Did you?

I want to look through ALL my cookbooks, my coffee table design books, I want to get new recipes, I want to get some decor ideas, I want to try this and that, have friends over, meet for coffee, meet for wine, take food to someone who is sick, give back to the community…

I also want, selfishly to fix up my beautiful home, have more Summer BBQ’s, I want to entertain, I want people to feel they can just stop by, I want to create a beautiful shabby chic, cozy space for my peeps and family to ENJOY.

I want to travel to places I have never seen. I want to collect interesting things that REALLY mean something. I want to plan for the future but I also I want to give back.

I do not want to be pushed into some role someone wants me to be in. I want my own role. I want to command my own life, my own life rules, living with ethics and integrity of course.

I want to not care how I look when I go out in my fitness clothes, no makeup, so what? Don’t like it? Not bothered.

I want this segment of my life to ACTUALLY MEAN SOMETHING!!!!

I want to let go ghosts that haunt me, I want to let GO insecurities, “bad mind” people, overachieving goals….as I just want to enjoy each, day, to, the FULLEST.

What are your hopes and dreams for the future?


Neenie xo

how to look at 2021 with hope (my musings)

Hi Friends!

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I do hope you have had a somewhat of a peaceful Christmas. I know that many of you were unable to be with family members, and for that I salute you for really taking this pandemic seriously. It is better to sacrifice a gathering with family members, keeping them safe (and maybe even ourselves) until things are safe again for us to get together like we used to. We are far from over from the end of it. We see the new hospitalisations climbing each day and it seems very grim right now.

Yet, there is also hope and light at the end of the tunnel, with the release of the Pfizer vaccine, and next to be the Moderna vaccine. Right behind that will be more. And news from Australia today that they have discovered an old medication that actually helps to fight and “kill” the covid-19 virus within 48 hours. So let us keep the faith that soon we will have this horrific pandemic behind us.

How do we get back the hope we may have lost in 2020 for 2021, is the premise of this post…

First of all, we have to keep in mind…things could be worse! At least we have two active vaccines that have been tested, and now ready for the public. Medical front liners of course, should get these first! They have had a rough nine months, and it has not stopped, with the spike again.

Sometimes, it really affects me mentally reading, and watching the news. I am sure it affects you in the same way.

So another way to combat the negativity of the ongoing news on social media is to A. stop reading it for a few days, and B. do not watch the news on TV. Try diverting to reading fun stories, cooking, looking at future vacation plans on social media, and as for TV, try watching a comedy, a new Series on Netflix, etc. I find that if I take a few days off of reading all the Covid-19 “news” I feel mentally better to cope when I am back on reading it. It gives you a mental break. Something we ALL need.

My advice to everyone right now, is to look forward to things slowly changing for the better. It is going to take time, but we have been hit with this since March, and we are still being cautious, patient and hopeful. So we can do this another few months. I know everyone has suffered in many ways. Loss of family members, friends, loss of income, homes, some have no food on the table. Horrific.

In 2021, we have to think about the way we want to live our lives, in our way, on our own terms. It is time to adjust the mindset. We have seen and been through so much in 2020 that surely each and every single one of us has been affected by this pandemic.

Living life in a more simplistic way, dealing with things with humility – it all helps to change the outcome of the “richness” of our lives. Dwelling on the past, or negative situations only causes stress, which does not help us in the long run.

For me, I choose exercise as a way to combat stress, fear and uncertainty. It helps me focus, if only for an hour or so – on something else entirely. At this time, I refuse to answer anything work related. I listen to music and that is it. Maybe even a podcast.

We have become so attuned to the noise around us, we have forgotten to just stop…slow down….meditate….pray….whatever helps. Step back, turn off your phone for an hour, listen to music, write in a journal. As one day, you will reflect back to these hard times and wonder how you got through them. Writing a journal is a wonderful way to record everything.

I say for 2021, dream bigger, and plan! Anything is possible in the future. Anything!

I hope you will have a safe, happy & healthy New Year’s Eve and 2021. Hope is something we all need. Brighter days are coming.

One love,

Neenie xo