I am writing this post on the first day of 2024! I felt it would be raw and real to do so….and as I do not even have the slightest semblance of a hangover it is easy. This year we decided to have a lovely, at home, date night for NYE rather than attend a party. It was the type of year that I felt this was needed to end it – in a gentle, lovely manner with my dogs and hubby, having a delicious dinner, wine and watching Oppenheimer (3 hours long!) – until midnight. I enjoyed it so much.
Goals, hopes and dreams this year…
This year I have a long list of things I would like to accomplish. Some have been on lists for years, like writing my book. I have started writing it, and then I get distracted by work, and life events. Last year of course it was breast cancer and that journey I had to go through which did not make me feel very creative at all. My goal each week was to get to Kingston to see my Doctors and get through six surgeries. As well as to work as hard as ever, which I continued to do, even just before being wheeled into the operating theatre – the Doctors had to ask me to put my laptop away! I was busy answering emails and managing the 16 social media accounts.
My Book project
I call it a project as that is what it has become, albeit if I had done nothing else but write the book, it would have been long finished. I have written ten chapters already and will now let discipline click in like I do for my fitness. Two chapters per week is my minimum. I hope to be complete by the end of April, and to publishers by June. I have always wanted to write a book ever since high school days. And it is all in my head waiting to come alive on paper.
The Fitness Journey
The fitness journey continues! I am in the smack middle of getting my fitness level back that I had before I found out I had breast cancer in April 2023. I then hardly exercised from June (time of major surgery – a double mastectomy) to October. Then I started walking around the neighborhood again, and after that I was given the “green light” to lift weights, but not heavy. I am now up to ten pounds for upper body – but still not doing chest exercises until after the final surgery, and I am not doing machines for shoulders, which is my fave upper body muscle group to exercise so it has been hard…but I am giving thanks that I can do bicep curls, shoulder presses with a low weight, triceps with 5 pound dumbbells, and all the leg exercises I am almost back to. A few days ago I actually did an uphill treadmill workout which was amazing, and so the fitness level is almost back. They say it takes HALF the time of not exercising to get back to where you were! Okay so that is like six more weeks I have to work hard to get back to pre-fitness state.
Fitness Coaching
And so the time will come this year that I intend to start coaching in person and online. Once I am back to a place that I am confident to teach, I will slowly take on clients. This is very exciting to me as my passion besides writing, is fitness! And to teach women of all ages that you can get fit and it does not have to be extreme – this has always been my message. For a complete package I will also teach how to understand macro-nutrients and meal prep.
Vision Board “Get together’s”
Last year I hosted a “Vision Board Brunch” at my house which actually lasted all day to after 7:00 p.m.! I invited a group of ladies who I know to partake in creating a vision board for the year, using all the magazines I collect and keep collecting over the years. It ended up being a blast! Not only that, but many of us had our pictures (goals/ dreams) manifested and quickly. It will be time again to do a new board, but also to give thanks for all we have and that we have a new clean board to start over. This does not mean old pictures that were not manifested cannot be re-done again on the new board. I would like to host a few of these sessions this year and I am hoping I can collaborate with a hotel to do vision boarding manifestation, and add meditation, a food element and create a real “girl’s getaway” to market….let’s see how this pans out!
My New Company
This year I will be officially launching my new Company! So excited to share that a partner and I have created a social media / digital marketing Company that we hope to attract new clients across the Caribbean to showcase the work we love to do….with special Photographers and stylists, it will be something that we will kick off in early 2024. More to come!
On that note, I want to wish you all a very happy, peaceful, blessed New Year.
May you make new wonderful friends and connect back with old ones.
Here we are in December already! Time has flown for most but not for me. When I reflect back on the year I feel I was “sitting still” literally from June to November.
With one major surgery in June after finding out I had breast cancer (a double mastectomy) and then an emergency surgery on the same day I was released for a hematoma, plus four more surgical procedures between August and October, it really has been a challenging year for me. However, I am here enjoying the Festive Season and planning the things I want to accomplish and do for 2024.
If you did not read the last three posts, I encourage you to as you will understand this one so much better…see them below:
How the year started – January 2023 (saying goodbye to Rudi)
The year started with me flying up to Wellington, FL the first week of January, to “say goodbye” in my own way to my beloved step-dad who had died a week before. We were not at the funeral point, but I wanted to re-trace all the footsteps we would have done together had he been there. I also went through his photo albums and brought them all back to Jamaica with me so that my sister and I could pick the ones we wanted to make our own album for memories. I stayed in his house alone, by myself as I wanted. It was strange walking into an empty house without him there to greet me at the front door and make me a well needed cold, martini after my flight – which as he knew well, I disliked flying. We would sit down have a drink and laugh at life. Then…we would get ready and go out to somewhere smart for dinner. Both of us were passionate foodies, hoteliers and had the same tastes. From there, the week or two I would spend with him twice per year, was about driving around to shop, check out new restaurants and bars, and chat. Also, we would watch so many lovely movies together in the evenings until midnight. Things I did not do in Jamaica.
Also Rudi, my step-dad and I literally had the same sense of humor and would laugh at the same things. His house was immaculate, neat and well kept, something I loved and as both of us were hoteliers we also had lots of stories to tell. Some of his were funny, some of mine were asking him “what do I do?” As his advice was always on point.
”Never trust someone who cannot have a drink, Jeanine….” We would laugh hard at that one while sipping our own cocktails…Of course we did not mean past alcoholics but ones who were like “oh I do not drink, water please….” Hoteliers have a secret code, and if you know, well you know! This of course is not to make anyone feel bad who does not drink, as I believe you have to do what you have to do to stay and be healthy – but I also believe in the balance of life and this is what we were referring to.
Being a Hotelier – and what we had in common!
We would talk about past experiences in Jamaica that made us laugh but also make us feel a bit sad. The ones who would love to come to visit you – and dine, use the hotel facilities, expect complimentary day passes, weekends complimentary with false promises about having you back at their villa or hotel….or just arriving and expecting white glove service and then just leaving the bills for you to pay, when we were in charge of a hotel that “they could enjoy.” We also shared some hysterical stories about this as well as the sad ones.
There are friends, and then there are your REAL friends…
When you were no longer in charge or a General Manager of a hotel – they would not know who the hell you were. And on and on it went. I could not talk to anyone else like this. Rudi got it. I got it. It was sad on one hand, quite funny on the other (as we had so many stories to share!) – but it had happened to him after he left Jamaica Inn, Half Moon, Plantation Inn (now Sandals) then Jamaica itself…and it happened to me after I moved on from The Caves in Negril as a General Manager….my quite large “circle of friends” that had gotten pretty wide suddenly diminished. Apparently it was a well known phenomena that happens when you move on from being in charge of a hotel, many do not see you as helpful to them anymore. Sad. Anyway we would talk about that. Those “friends” who no longer knew you, and moved on. It made me very upset to see that he did so much for so many and then had so many “slam their doors in his face” when he needed them. However, my step-father was a wonderful, humble, resilient and kind man who never stopped doing things for people. He joined the Rotary Club of Wellington immediately after moving there, and then headed up a lovely restaurant over at the chic Palm Beach International Polo Club where he got to know many more people who stayed his friends for the entire rest of his life. His close friends at the end of his life were his “Palm Beach crew” many Rotarians, and his beloved best friends Danny and Don.
And then he got sick. In Summer 2022 he called me on video to say they had found oral cancer and he was on radiation, and medication but that the medical team had caught it early. So I did not expect to see him suffering so much when I went to visit him in September last year, for two weeks. He could not chew, he could barely swallow, and he could not taste anything. He was also in a lot of pain. He had about ten types of meds he was taking and he was still in pain. He tried many times to have the meds changed, and it seemed like it was a hard task to do whereby the Doctors just would not change it to anything that helped him. His place to sit and go through all of this, was in front of the very large TV on the couch facing out to the enclosed sunroom with the beautiful Palm Trees around it. He loved that angle and always said “this is my peaceful spot Jeanine…” I would cook him very bland scrambled eggs, which he would eat, albeit very slowly and not be able to taste a thing. At times, he would cry out at night as he was in so much pain. However, by the end of the two weeks he seemed to be feeling much better and started to taste things. I left Wellington after 16 days with him, feeling confident he was on the mend!
However by November he was back and forth in the hospital, and in December it just got worse, he succumbed to cancer at the end of December having just been moved to a hospice that very day. I will never forget him and there is a huge missing piece of my life now, especially at this time of year.
March 2023, Breast Cancer Diagnosis
If you have read my last three posts, then you know I found out I had breast cancer after a biopsy in March. I had felt a strange lump in my right breast since December but thought it was the “calcification” the Doc saw on my mammogram and ultrasound the year before that he assured me was benign. Apparently it was a very new “lump” not the same one but I decided to get a double mastectomy after it was confirmed it was breast cancer – so I would not have to worry about the other one – along with a “phased reconstruction” but after five months of having the tissue expanders in, we decided (the amazing plastic surgeon and I) to take out the one on the right as the skin was not able to heal properly. Immediately I felt a sense of freedom. I could walk fast, move my arms more, and even sleep on the right side again. I am a side sleeper and could not get used to the back sleeping. I literally had my life back, but I am also looking forward to having the implant surgery the first quarter of next year.
December 2023, feeling almost back to my old self and on my way to the next segment!
I have been hitting the GYM again, per my Doctor’s “green light” but not back to the heavy lifting just yet! Slow and Steady!
The month started off with a very positive and happy feeling, knowing I have been allowed by my Doctors to go back to the gym, lift to a certain point (not too heavy) and live my life happily. I have been driving again, and thinking about the “next steps.” I saw my Doctor this past week (December 7th) and he gave me a really good report. Both sides are healing well and we should expect to start filling the left side in January. The right problematic side (the side that had the lump) will take longer to get to that point of filling the tissue expander; as we will more than likely have to put the tissue expander back in it. I am looking ahead and thinking about all the maintenance tests I will need to do to keep on top of the breast cancer possibly returning as a secondary cancer. However; I plan to have a gene test done where they send your lymph node samples to Miami for a pathologist to grade. Anything over 25% means you are at risk for a return….and that therefore means a light course of chemo. Many women do not realize that in up to 30% of cases of primary breast cancer, the cancer can return in your life, and it can go to your bones, brain and organs. Yikes. I have been following many accounts on instagram where I see very young ladies suffering and having stage 4 cancer, in their 20’s and 30’s!
Breast Cancer Advocacy going forward in Jamaica and online
I want to be a spokesperson for breast cancer. As I have been studying it and reading up about it now since March. I need to join in the lobbying of women getting mammograms from their 20’s. One out of eight women will experience it in their lifetime. That is too high of a figure! Also, Triple negative breast cancer seems to be on the increase with young women. My breast cancer was estrogen related, which means I have to take an estrogen blocker in the form of a pill for the next five years. There are unpleasant side effects, and I hope to be able to change that medication. One is depression and I have to say I find it hard from day to day fighting this cloud at times. I am a very positive person and try to think of all the things I need to be grateful for, but it can be hard. I am also someone who prays a lot and asks God to help me not feel like this. I have always seen the cup and half full not half empty and this is the way I chose to go about tending to my breast cancer, with my cup half full. I am one of the blessed ones where my breast cancer was found early and had not spread, but now the pressure is on, where I must keep on top of the maintenance tests every six months.
Goals, the future…and my “NEENIE 2.0 Tribe Circle”
My goals and dreams get more vivid and detailed each day. I want to firstly, have a tribe around me who CARE. My family are my tribe currently. After that, a few close circle of friends in Jamaica and overseas. I have had serious disappointments with persons I thought who would be there during my recovery. Sarcastic comments, no support and just plain rude about my phased reconstruction asking “how come you cannot just go to the hospital or clinic and just get your implants, why all these phases?” My answer with my poker face “well those persons who just go and get implants do not usually have breast cancer do they?”
I decided from months ago, that these are NOT the people I want to take with me in the next segment of my life, which is to be full of fun, peace, fitness, travel and good times. No way! I may sound harsh, but after what I went though and still going through, I need a tribe of gentle, genuine and caring people around me for so many reasons. I have been through hell this year and I do not intend to have anyone who is aggressive or abrasive around me. This goes for my work life too in all ways, in all facets of my life! I must mention here that my Bosses have been super amazing to me this year and I adore them.
Fitness and LIV Body
My fitness continues to be a huge part of my life and now will take center stage. It will help with my general health, as well as fitness goals and maybe even a real bonafide, side livelihood. I have a lot to share soon, and am also excited to announce that I am now an Ambassador for one of my fave health and wellness Companies, LIV Body. I have just signed on with them in the last month but have many plans to do lots of great content, and even travel to the headquarters in 2024. Many of their products are vegan, and they do not use additives or dyes. This is one of the ways I am changing up my lifestyle to continue with a healthy, happy and FIT life. I will be posting a lot of content over on my Instagram account (see sidebar to follow!) on my LIV Body supplements and vitamins, and workouts.
SO much more to announce and share, coming soon! Thank you to all my “tribe” in person and online who have reached out, sent messages, stopped by my home, sent donuts, helped me at Doctor’s appointments and been so lovely to me. I will never forget YOU or this past year.
Fitness. Health. Wellness. Balance. 